30.9.15

Tips for surviving (and enjoying) uni!

On the 15th of September this year, I graduated Canterbury Christ Church University with a 2.1. degree in English Language and Communication. I can no longer identify myself as a 'student'; I am now a 'graduate.'
When I started uni in 2012, I was nervous.as.hell. I'd never been through anything like it before, and to make matters even scarier neither had my parents or in fact nearly anyone I knew. I'm sure there were blog posts around at the time encouraging freshers in this new experience, but now I'm a blogger myself and recently graduated, I figured another collection of handy tips couldn't hurt for those of you who have just started this amazing, valuable three or four years of your life.




























1. Don't get along with your housemates? Don't worry!
Moving into halls is always daunting as you most likely haven't met any of your housemates, at least away from Facebook groups that are often handily set up beforehand. When I initially met my four housemates we got along fine and I spent my first night of uni at the student union with them watching an awful Katy Perry tribute act. It was fun, and I got to know them all over the next few days, but I quickly realised I had little in common with any of them. This is not a rare occurrence and unfortunately you may not gel with the people you've been randomly lumped with. Over time this can change for the better, but remember you can make friends with people besides whom you live with/near. In my case I became friends with a couple of girls on my course, who then introduced me to their friends and so on; I ended up moving in with one of said girls and her housemates for second year. You'll also find yourself making friends elsewhere, such as in societies, or just out and about. 

2. Remember your next student loan installment is a while away yet.
This piece of advice I unfortunately did not follow very well throughout my three years at uni, but if I could start again I'd do things a lot differently money wise. When that first loan installment comes in, it's extremely tempting to hit the shops and take advantage of that student shopping night a lot of unis sneakily organise. Other outlets such as takeaways and nights out are also tempting, but just remember student loan/grant installments are quite spaced out; even if they seem like a lot of money to begin with, towards the end of term you may find yourself living on noodles and biscuits if you're not careful. There's nothing worse than your housemate inviting you on a night out and you having to decline because you've maxed out your overdraft. Try to budget on aspects such as food shopping (Aldi is a savior if you're lucky enough to live near one) and maybe only buy a couple of clothing items a term if you can help it. Oh, and a part time job is always handy if you can find one (myself never finding one is another personal regret.)

3. Try not to go home that often if you can help it.
If you live near home, going back and visiting family and friends is always enticing, but remember your uni experience is valuable and you may miss out if you're away for too long, whether that's to do with your education or social life. In order to really immerse yourself in uni culture and make it a lot easier for you, becoming more independent and familiarising yourself with a new place is key and it'll help you grow up and give you experience in living on your own and also with new people.

4. Go to freshers week every year. It gets worse, but please go anyway.
Your first freshers week will hopefully be an exciting and enjoyable affair (although don't worry if that's not your thing!), but the question is, do you return and do it all again the year after? YES is my final answer. You may find that your second round of freshers week will make you feel a little old, angry, sad or indeed a combination of all three but I promise you'll regret it if you don't grab the chance to get all those drink discounts in Wetherspoons or free stationary at the freshers fair. Also, returning gives you a wonderful sense of independence and belonging.

5. Get to know people on your course early on.
Even if it's just a couple of people; unless you switch courses at some point you're going to be spending three or four years with your classmates, so make sure to talk to people early on and make friends with those you feel comfortable with. I made friends with a classmate pretty quickly who eventually became my closest friend on my course and I'd like to think massively helped me in achieving the grade I graduated with due to her encouragement and savvy. If you find people you actually enjoy spending time with, then doing things like going to the library at stupid times of the night won't seem so tedious if you're doing it with them.

6. Don't leave everything until the last minute.
Obviously this is never a smart option, and though there are always going to be a few assignments you finish the night before their due date, make sure you're balancing everything correctly. I saw countless people screw themselves over in a particular module or even their whole course because they left everything to the last minute and in the end deemed it useless to actually get anything done at all. As soon as an assignment is set, immediately start to think about what you're going to focus on, even if it's just a few ideas.

I could advise on many more aspects of uni life but this post is already pretty lengthy! Just remember that even though it sounds immensely cliche, everyone is in the same boat; no one figures out uni life straight away and the more you experience it, the more comfortable you'll feel and the more fun you'll have.


25.9.15

TV is ruining my life

Firstly I'd like to apologise for my complete lack of attention once again towards this blog over the past couple of months. I'd like to give the excuse that I've been enthusiastically searching for a grad job (or even any job that's at least slightly relevant to my degree), however, even though I have indeed spent many hours registering with every recruitment agency in a 25 mile radius and getting myself into a tizz over improving my CV, there's one main pastime that has taken over my life since I left uni: television.
Of course when I say 'television' you've probably already guessed that I'm referring to shows streamed through sites such as Netflix rather than random daytime property shows, and apart from the occasional The Chase binge (I dare you to argue there's a better quiz show out there) you'd be correct.
Becoming addicted to several shows and binge-watching them in a matter of days is by no means a new hobby for people of my age, and of all the 'post-graduation blues' articles I've read on sites such as Buzzfeed, staying in bed for hours on end and becoming ridiculously involved in characters' lives is perhaps the most common treatment for said blues. I can guarantee almost every person I follow on Twitter is currently addicted to a certain show, whether they're wearing out the 'next episode' button on Netflix or watching it on let's say less legal sites (Coke & Popcorn is a personal recommendation.)
Over the past couple of weeks, I've realised that apart from working an eight hour shift every couple of days at my boring, and as a graduate let's face it soul destroying, waitressing job I am most likely to be found in my bed, with some kind of baked goods, watching my newest obsession; also, because of the speed at which I'm watching them, you can almost guarantee that if you pop your head into my room the week after I'll be watching something entirely different. Currently for example I am re-watching a personal teenage favourite, 'dramedy' Ugly Betty which ended over five years ago. A couple of days ago, I watched thirteen episodes over the course of the day. I started to sense this was becoming an issue.
Over the summer this was also the case for many other shows, either ones I'd previously hadn't gotten round to watching and had been highly recommended to me (The US Office, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, Broad City) or 'old' favourites I still can't get enough of (Parks and Recreation, Gossip Girl, American Horror Story.) I even made a list on my phone at the start of the summer of shows I need to watch and re-watch. 
Interestingly I don't seem to possess the same enthusiasm for films, most likely because TV series' usually have an extensive amount of episodes available (some even all at once, hence why I easily watched the new series of Orange Is The New Black in two days.) 
Sure, I feel a certain degree of guilt when clicking 'next episode', knowing that I'm about to spend another twenty-forty minutes of my graduate life on the next ridiculously far-fetched storyline of Manhattan's elite (props to those who understand this reference), but becoming so involved also fascinates me. TV shows can create friendships between people who may never have ever interacted otherwise; they can inspire viewers in many aspects of life (Bake Off kickstarted my baking hobby, which I now believe I've actually gotten pretty good at), and most importantly, they can impact your personality as you start to become passionate about the show and its characters.
Prioritising your next TV binge over your career and personal life is clearly not advisable, but I do truly believe a keen interest in shows can give your otherwise normal life more substance and most importantly, make you happy. 
To round off this post (and before I get back to whatever scheme Wilhelmina Slater's orchestrating), I'm going to make a pact with myself that I'll start to post much more regularly on this blog. Who knows, you may even spot a review on the new season of American Horror Story on this blog very soon (Lady Gaga is going to crush it.) Oh and in a few days expect to see a post with some tips on how to enjoy uni for all you freshers! (I'm not jealous at all...) 




2.8.15

Social Media 'shame'

Over recent years various social media sites have been created, developed and praised; sensations such as Facebook, YouTube and Twitter have now become staple examples. Let's face it, if the world of social media was a colour spectrum these three would be primary colours (I know, my metaphorical skills are second to none.) 
Along with the use of and communication about some social networking sites however comes a certain stigma or even several, many of which I myself, as a user of a wide range of sites, have recently started to notice more than usual. 
The site that immediately comes to mind for me is Tumblr, a micro-blogging website first available to internet users in 2007. Tumblr is a micro-blogging platform allowing bloggers to post and reblog various types of media such as photos, text posts and videos. The site itself has been through many technical changes over the years, and I'm sure that if I compared my 'dashboard' now to when I first joined in 2009 I would be able to highlight many of these changes. When I first created my Tumblr page at the age of sixteen, it was quickly overtaking both Bebo and My Space as the new social media mecca. Soon, 'Tumblr famous', as they were known by users, bloggers were created which just made the use of the site even more sought after. I spent a sizable portion of my day on Tumblr during this period, exemplified by my Dad jokingly writing 'sponsored by Lil' next to the entry in an Internet focused dictionary we owned. As with most trends though, over the coming years these 'Tumblr famous' icons started to abandon their ask boxes and 'Tumblr crushes', with some claiming they felt it was no longer appropriate to use the page; most often this appeared to be down to age. As I write this, I realise that of the blogs I follow on Tumblr, almost all of the users are in their late teens or early twenties; why is it considered taboo to continue blogging on Tumblr after a certain age? If so, why the hell have celebrities such as Beyonce got an account? (Ignoring the fact Beyonce is Beyonce and therefore doesn't need an excuse to do anything, obviously.) Excluding age as a factor though, I still know for a fact that a lot of Tumblr users would not wish to stand on top of a cliff and proudly declare to everyone that they have a Tumblr account. I know this because honestly, I'm not sure I would if someone dared me to. When a new friend tells me they have a Tumblr I feel a sense of excitement, as if I'm almost a freak for using it, and I have no idea why I feel that way and always have done. Sure, there are some parts of the site that I'm a tad wary of accidentally coming across, often to do with certain fandoms, but loads of other social media outlets have these scary sides too (just take the One Direction fandom on Twitter.)
Tumblr seems to definitely be the worst offender when it comes to being embarrassed about the use of social media, but it's not just the now Yahoo owned page that is sometimes talked about in hushed tones, both online and offline. The world of fanfiction gets an astonishingly bad rep, particularly fics that contain 'smut', a synonym for erm, 'sexy times.' Fanfiction is written by fans of certain cultural phenomenons, mostly television shows and music artists; stories are created for further entertainment for fellow fans, so they can, if you like, continue the story of an episode. Openly exclaiming that you read fanfic is considered a brave choice by many, especially if you do so on a daily basis, using websites such as LiveJournal (established in 1999, also used for other purposes.) This is because fanfic is immediately linked to smut, and in some peoples' views you may as well be watching pornographic material; R-rated stories even have warnings before you begin to read. Whether fanfiction is really as explicit as porn is of course a personal opinion, but let me just say, reading 50 Shades of Grey isn't considered taboo so how the hell is fanfiction any different?
How you present yourself on social networking sites is a whole different ballgame; in a way it's just like the real world. The language you use, your physical appearance and cultural preferences are constantly judged by others whether you're aware of it or not and in some cases, online this can get ugly. The use of one social networking site, such as the above examples, to be deemed 'embarrassing' however I believe is not necessarily needed, especially as social media continues to thrive and create new outlets for people to express their feelings and interests.
I've only written about Tumblr and fanfiction in this post, but I'd be interested to hear from you guys if you at times feel ashamed to admit to using other social networking sites, and why do you think this is the case? Unless it's Bebo in which case come on guys, I don't care if it's been re-branded, that period of social media is o-v-e-r.

Lily

13.7.15

I'm back!

Around three years ago I spontaneously decided to start blogging, purely for my own enjoyment and never being too bothered about my follower count or if I was getting any exposure at all. I just loved reading all types of blogs, created by all types of people all over the world and therefore decided to jump into the blogging world myself.
After just a few months of solid blogging however, my motivation to write posts or even think of ideas vanished and I deserted both my decision to blog and this page. At the time I put my lack of enthusiasm down to stress over uni work, believing that running a regular blog alongside studying towards my degree wasn't particularly helpful for me and would most likely just add extra pressure to my everyday life. Since then though I have realised that the true problem was actually in the content I was posting, or more specifically, the topics I was focusing on. Don't get me wrong, I'm still massively enthusiastic about reading beauty and fashion blogs and do so on a daily basis; there are many I look forward to updating and I'm so happy that blogs have become such a huge phenomenon in the modern world that they influence normal peoples' decisions on such products. Writing about such topics myself however wasn't enjoyable for me deep down and I couldn't shake the feeling that I didn't possess much knowledge on what I was reviewing. 
Hopefully though, this refreshed version of my original blog will be different; I have promised myself that I will only post content that reflects my enthusiasm about the topic. The world of social media itself, therefore including blogging, has recently become of great interest to me after focusing my dissertation on the way it has influenced our language use. I studied English Language and Communication at uni (a couple of weeks ago I found out I'll be graduating with a 2.1 in September, mental!) and so could have chosen anything related to linguistics or communication to write a hefty 10,000 words about, and in the end I chose social media. Consequently, you can expect to see a large amount of posts discussing social media as I resume posts and luckily I already have a plethora of ideas in relation to this. I'll also be hopefully posting about other fields that I enjoy, such as music, television and cooking, to name just a few.
Who knows how my revamp of my blog will go yet, but I'm hoping that this second time around I will at least genuinely enjoy the blogging process, and if I can entertain and inspire readers whilst doing so that'll be a bonus!

Lily